This story is from my virtual friend
I have a friend named Monty Roberts who owns a horse ranch in San Ysidro. He has let me use his house to put on fund-raising events to raise money for youth at risk programs.
The last time I was there he introduced me by saying, “I want to tell you why I let Jack use my horse. It all goes back to a story about a young man who was the son of an itinerant horse trainer who would go from stable to stable, race track to race track, farm to farm and ranch to ranch, training horses. As a result, the boy’s high school career was continually interrupted. When he was a senior, he was asked to write a paper about what he wanted to be and do when he grew up.
“That night he wrote a seven-page paper describing his goal of someday owning a horse ranch. He wrote about his dream in great detail and he even drew a diagram of a 200-acre ranch, showing the location of all the buildings, the stables and the track. Then he drew a detailed floor plan for a 4,000-square-foot house that would sit on a 200-acre dream ranch.
“He put a great deal of his heart into the project and the next day he handed it in to his teacher. Two days later he received his paper back. On the front page was a large red F with a note that read, `See me after class.’
“The boy with the dream went to see the teacher after class and asked, `Why did I receive an F?’
“The teacher said, `This is an unrealistic dream for a young boy like you. You have no money. You come from an itinerant family. You have no resources. Owning a horse ranch requires a lot of money. You have to buy the land. You have to pay for the original breeding stock and later you’ll have to pay large stud fees. There’s no way you could ever do it.’ Then the teacher added, `If you will rewrite this paper with a more realistic goal, I will reconsider your grade.’
“The boy went home and thought about it long and hard. He asked his father what he should do. His father said, `Look, son, you have to make up your own mind on this. However, I think it is a very important decision for you.’ “Finally, after sitting with it for a week, the boy turned in the same paper, making no changes at all.
He stated, “You can keep the F and I’ll keep my dream.”
Monty then turned to the assembled group and said, “I tell you this story because you are sitting in my 4,000-square-foot house in the middle of my 200-acre horse ranch. I still have that school paper framed over the fireplace.”
He added, “The best part of the story is that two summers ago that same schoolteacher brought 30 kids to camp out on my ranch for a week.”
When the teacher was leaving, he said, “Look, Monty, I can tell you this now. When I was your teacher, I was something of a dream stealer. During those years I stole a lot of kids’ dreams. Fortunately you had enough gumption not to give up on yours.”
“Don’t let anyone steal your dreams.
Follow your heart, no matter what.”
Friday, December 04, 2009
Teenage girls !!!! Talk to Your Parents !!!
Article from my friend from India...He's a doctor & motivator..
Being a teenager is a difficult challenge. You frequently bounce between childhood and adulthood, being irresponsible and responsible, testing parental authority and then depending on it. Parents often do not know what to expect. Many often find it difficult to understand your growing need for independent action, and even for rebellion.
Some adults view adolescence as a period of friction, change and problems. For you, it’s a time of concern about acne, weight problems, menstruation, late development, early development, sexual arousal, school pressures, girl friends, boy friends, boredom, parental hassles, peer pressures and your future.
It's easy to understand why many find this a difficult time. But once it’s over, you realize that most of your parents’ "irritating" behavior was motivated by feelings of love and concern. Yes, adolescence can be a trying time. But if you and your parents communicate and try to understand each other, this period will be less trying and more fun for everyone.
Below are a few tips to improve the communication you have with your parents:
* Be honest with your feelings. Your parents are a great resource of support and knowledge, but they don’t know what’s going on in your life if you don’t tell them.
* If your parents upset you by setting a curfew or by grounding you, don’t immediately take the defensive side. Make sure you talk to your parents when you’re not emotionally upset. If you start yelling or crying, you won’t be able to express your important feelings.
* Calmly tell your parents what’s on your mind. Avoid “you” statements like, “You don’t give me enough freedom” or “You’re never happy with anything I do.” These types of accusation statements will only cause more friction. Instead use “I” statements such as “When I go out with my friends, your early curfew makes me feel as if you don’t trust me,” or “Sometimes I feel hurt when you don’t give me credit for being responsible.” This method communicates your feelings without blaming your parents.
* Listen to what your parents have to say. If you’re getting a chance to speak what’s on your mind, it’s only fair to give the same opportunity to your parents. If you listen to what they say, you may learn that you’ve been misinterpreting their feelings.
* When you’re talking to your parents, if they say something you disagree with, don’t immediately overreact. Give them a chance to express their feelings and then calmly explain why you may disagree with them. Try to identify what you need from them and tell them (they may not know).
Some adults view adolescence as a period of friction, change and problems. For you, it’s a time of concern about acne, weight problems, menstruation, late development, early development, sexual arousal, school pressures, girl friends, boy friends, boredom, parental hassles, peer pressures and your future.
It's easy to understand why many find this a difficult time. But once it’s over, you realize that most of your parents’ "irritating" behavior was motivated by feelings of love and concern. Yes, adolescence can be a trying time. But if you and your parents communicate and try to understand each other, this period will be less trying and more fun for everyone.
Below are a few tips to improve the communication you have with your parents:
* Be honest with your feelings. Your parents are a great resource of support and knowledge, but they don’t know what’s going on in your life if you don’t tell them.
* If your parents upset you by setting a curfew or by grounding you, don’t immediately take the defensive side. Make sure you talk to your parents when you’re not emotionally upset. If you start yelling or crying, you won’t be able to express your important feelings.
* Calmly tell your parents what’s on your mind. Avoid “you” statements like, “You don’t give me enough freedom” or “You’re never happy with anything I do.” These types of accusation statements will only cause more friction. Instead use “I” statements such as “When I go out with my friends, your early curfew makes me feel as if you don’t trust me,” or “Sometimes I feel hurt when you don’t give me credit for being responsible.” This method communicates your feelings without blaming your parents.
* Listen to what your parents have to say. If you’re getting a chance to speak what’s on your mind, it’s only fair to give the same opportunity to your parents. If you listen to what they say, you may learn that you’ve been misinterpreting their feelings.
* When you’re talking to your parents, if they say something you disagree with, don’t immediately overreact. Give them a chance to express their feelings and then calmly explain why you may disagree with them. Try to identify what you need from them and tell them (they may not know).
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